Simple Tips on Keeping the Spark

Not only am I a matchmaker who finds my clients love in the first place; Often times, couples in great relationships ask me for advice on how to change things up and keep the spark alive with their significant other.  Here are some quick, fresh tips anyone can apply and some new ideas to add to your mix with your beau or hubby!

All my best,

From Your Favorite Matchmaker , Amy Laurent

 

How can I keep the spark at home?

1. Who has time to make a fancy, special candlelit dinner every night of the week?  Definitely not you.  Consider mixing things up by doing a tasty dessert creation in the kitchen together.  Selected from a recipe you spotted in a magazine or while watching The Food Network, the goal is to have some fun with this- and with a little bit of wine and some whipped cream, you can bring dessert with you into the bedroom!

 

2. I get it, when you come home from a long day at the office spent running around in pumps; your bunny slippers are calling your name. But once in a blue moon mix it up and ditch the sweatpants for something sexier. I’m not suggesting you lounge around in a too-tight corset and stilettos every night.  However, it can’t hurt to try out something flirty and playful every once in a while, all while keeping comfortable of course. Changing it up and surprising your man will go a long way in regards to keeping the romance alive.

 

3. Try having an intimate moment somewhere BESIDES the bedroom. A different part of the house can be all it takes to make things fun again. Let’s face it, sometimes things can get stale in the same position, in the same old bedroom. A change of venue goes a long way!

 

As a couple, we always do the same old date night: dinner and drinks.  What are some creative alternatives to change up our evenings out?

1. Concerts are a great idea for doing something different yet sexy with your man. Pick a show you both like and it will give you the chance to cut loose, dance and listen to great tunes together. Perhaps choose a favorite band you both were into when you first met, and strike up those sweet, great memories hearing the songs all over again.

 

2. Explore.  Do an ACTIVITY! Decide to be adventurous and try kayaking together for the first time.  Get dressed up like Latin lovers and try the Tango. Take a wine class you know nothing about. Get out of your element and explore life again as a couple.

 

3. Get silly. Karaoke may not be for everyone, however if you’re the kind of couple who doesn’t take themselves so seriously you can really have some fun with this.  Spend a night pretending you’re both rockstars and cheer on your honey as you do your best version of Cher.

 

4. Don’t underestimate the power of the simple things; pack a picnic and head out to your local park or ride your bike to a relaxing spot.  Especially if you're a busy couple; it’s vital to take time to spend some quite time together and reconnect.  As an added bonus, it’s romantic and essentially free.

 

5. Sweat it out and hit the gym together! Sure, the gym might feel like a bit of a chore during the work week- but crunches and push-ups are100x more fun when you get to watch your guy do them alongside you. You get to work up a sexy sweat together- and he’ll love the sight of you in your yoga pants.

Are there simple gestures my guy would appreciate? What are some simple gestures that my guy would appreciate?

1. Let’s face it, we’ve all made our guy watch The Notebook or Bridget Jones Diary (you know he secretly liked it) – but it’s important that you also open yourself up to his favorites. So whether it’s Braveheart, Miracle, The Hangover 2, or Monty Python- once in a while let him pick the movie and watch with a smile. If you need to fill your mouth with popcorn to avoid making snarky comments- so be it! The key here is to whole-heartedly embrace (or try to embrace) something he loves too.

 

2. As women, we’re so used to receiving compliments, we often forget that men need positive reinforcement, too!  Don’t forget to compliment him.  If he’s looking great that day, tell him.  If he’s doing something right, tell him how much you appreciate it.  If he’s working hard, mention to him how proud you are.  Often times we get stuck in pointing out what’s wrong or could be done better by our partners.  No one likes a constant nag, and no man wants to date his mother (well most don't, anyway...).  You are his partner, first and foremost and he is yours.  Although things will never be perfect 100 percent of the time, remember: Don’t forget to remind him what you love about him.